Today I finished reading The Beautiful No, And Other Tales of Trial, Transcendence, and Transformation by Sheri Salata. In this book Sheri is transparent about challenges she has faced with her weight, not always following her happiness compass, why she doesn’t believe in work-life balance, and much more. She shares exciting stories from working as executive producer for Oprah Winfrey and learning from worldly thought leaders. She shares inspirational stories about unconditional friendship, her spiritual transformation, and how it is never too late to start a new path and follow your dreams.
Sheri made me laugh out loud and she made me cry. In her book she wrote, “Marianne was the first to put into clear and accessible language the idea that love was the force above all. It was both the call to action and the endgame.” I had to read that again. Love was the force above all. A call to action and the endgame. Love is why we show up for people and for ourselves. To choose love, to feel love and to express our love. To spread love all over the world.
Sheri reminded me that when I find myself in a rut I must intentionally seek out something new. This is especially important now, when my days run into each other and there is no real divide between work and school and home. I need to get creative and experience something NEW.
Rituals. This is something I have been thinking about a lot lately. Having rituals for myself like waking up early and reading a chapter or 2, listening to a podcast, or drinking hot tea while journaling. Some kind of rituals where I can just be with my own thoughts. Other types of rituals I have been thinking about are rituals with my family. What are those things we do as a family that we look forward to, that we get energized from, and that turn into treasured memories? Times when everyone puts their electronics away and we just be with each other. Like movie night, or game night, or cooking together. Making plans and making it happen often.
It’s fall time, which is my favorite time of year, and the holidays are coming up. This will be the first holiday season without my grandmother. Christmas was one of her favorite times of the year. She loved decorating her house. She always made her famous divinity, and we all would gather at her house to celebrate, usually the weekend either before or after Christmas. She loved having everyone together, which got harder as we all grew up. The holiday season is going to feel different this year without GG. I will be thinking up some new holiday rituals for us that honor her. She will always be with us.
What are your rituals?
How do you honor loved ones you have lost?